"choking disgust. There was nothing lower she could do, nothing filthier" (113)

then

"Mr. Finley sat on his porch sucking chicken bones, as he had done for thirteen years, looked up, saw Sula, choked on a bone and died on the spot" (114) - LOL...

"About who was good. How you know it was you? I mean maybe it wasn't you. Maybe it was me." (146)

"Thinking how much I have cost her and never remember the days when we were two throats and one eye and we had no price" (147)

nothing is so strong as true gentleness, and nothing is so gentle as true strength

"It's easier to see hurtful words and actions as evidence of inherent character flaws than as results of emotional turmoil and upheaval. People always find it very difficult to believe that anyone can feel more intense feelings than themselves. Self-centered? Everyone's self-centered. Just a difference of who admits it to themselves and whether they do it in all situations; and difference in the willingness to curb such instincts. Some people thrive on pointing out how selfishly others have treated them, and fail to see their own self-centered desires to receive selfless gifts from others." - annonymous

Probably being pampered/cloistered results in one adopting the mentality that one can go scott free even after committing some terrible mistakes by not only adopting a goody exterior image, but also through tears and a whimpering voice. This is even more so because no one has really stood up and undone that person before. With constant sympathy, that misguidedness develops into a dogged insistence, or self-delusion, that one is always right, spurring a vengeful action that transfers the fault from one to the other.

People are not inherently bad, they are just affected by circumstances.
The day I embrace this quote totally is the day I forgive the other and move on.